If you could write a letter to your son, what would it say?
I posed this question to my hairstylist, Monika Robinson, who is also a fellow mom-friend of mine. Just as myself, Monika is a single mother of a young boy, so we often exchange stories about our journey as mothers, along with other girl talk that only happens when you are getting your hair slayed. Many times when I go to get my hair done, I can take my son along too, because he plays with her 7 year old son, Zyair. To see Zyair is to love him; he is definitely a little man with so much personality! To see Monika interact with him is also a beautiful sight to see. She carries a type of warmth, patience, gentleness, love and strength that is unique to this mother/son bond that God has created; she was the perfect person to ask to write this letter.
Dear Zyair Nicholas Robinson,
When you read this letter, I’m sure you would have grown into an awesome man. You may be traveling around the world to be the wonderful artist you always tell me you’d be. You may have married and started the family that you excitedly speak of often to me. Maybe you’re enjoying a vacation on the beach in Florida. You always say, “Mommy, let’s go to the beach!” Or contrary to how you smile at me every day you wake up, this may be a time in your life when life doesn’t look so good. You may be in a season of “growing pains.” Whatever and wherever you are at this time as you are reading this, I pray that I can bring a smile to your face.
As my son, I want to encourage you to never let your big, golden heart get hardened by the situations of life. There are going to be times in your life where things may not go as planned, and that’s ok. I ask that above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Even at 7 years old now, the way you love people will truly shine through as you grow older. Don’t be ashamed to love what you love. Stay true to yourself, Zyair! Stand firm in what you believe in and chase after what makes you come alive inside. I know you were birthed to shake up the world with the purpose inside of you the moment I laid eyes on you. You are a world changer!
As a man, I know God has graced and molded you into something amazing! As a single mother at the time you were birthed, it was hard to teach you manly things. I couldn’t have those talks with you or understand why my little king in the making had the feelings he had. I tried my best, you honored that and from my heart I thank you for your spirit for that! You never complained. You are currently surrounded by some amazing men; uncles, godfather and father figures. Whatever they have instilled in you, I know you have applied them and will be able to use those nuggets in your life now.
I don’t want to keep you much longer; I just want to end this letter off by saying this: Zyair Nicholas Robinson, thank you for being you! I am SO proud of you! I will always be a listening ear, an understanding heart, a cheerleader, a peanut butter and jelly maker & a forehead kisser for you. I am honored to be your mother & I hope that every memory that we ever shared together is hidden in your heart. Keep smiling! I love you!
Motherhood is God’s highest calling. –Anonymous