Most women have no idea how powerful they really are. There is an epidemic of low self-esteem amongst women of all backgrounds. This ultimately sets the tone for lackluster relationships of all kinds. We as women tend to put the blame of low self-esteem on a variety of reasons such as our childhood, parenting, friends, boyfriends and other things. But in reality, we cannot change the past, we can only move forward. By holding on to things from the past we keep ourselves tied to broken self-identities that mirror into our relationships which fail us over and over again.
When it comes to romantic relationships, we get exactly what we settle for. We as women set the bar in our romantic relationships. If we want to be treated like a queen then we will, if not we will more than likely find ourselves involved in destructive relationships. Be confident in yourself and men will flock. Ask any man and they will tell you that the most attractive trait about a woman is confidence. Women who lack confidence never find the power that’s within them which leads to poor relationships and pain that can last for years or even decades. Like I mentioned before we put blame on people in our lives when the main culprit is us as women. We need to start demanding respect, put our values first instead of lowering them for someone we’re dating and ultimately demand to be cherished.
If you want to be courted then say it. If want to go on a first date instead of straight to the bedroom then say it. Put your foot down if the person you are dating wants to Netflix and chill on the first date and instead of taking you out and presenting you to the world. If you are celibate put your foot down and let that individual know you are waiting, don’t let them pressure you into anything you don’t want to do. Ladies if you do not stand for something you will fall for anything. And I know we have all had our fair share of slip ups in relationships or first dates by going against our personal values, but that does not define who we are or how we will carry out our actions for the remainder of the relationship or dating process.
So ladies hold your head up high, stick to your standards and remain confident. A confident, powerful woman is like a drug that cannot be shaken off; it helps balance your significant other. In return they pursue, crave and will do just about anything to keep you. It’s time for us all to step into our power and own it. It’s time to leave an upstanding legacy for our daughters that shows that we are strong and it’s all about claiming our absolute feminine power. It’s time to take back control and take care of us first. So what are you willing to settle for?