I’ve always wondered why it is sometimes hard for women to give sincere compliments to other women. Especially in the African American community. What is it so tricky about saying, “You know what? You DO look good in that dress.” Or “I think you look fine without losing any weight.”
Sharing respect and fondness for each other brings more goodness back to us. And that is truth, not fiction, not religious babble, just plain truth. Positivity and goodness bring about positivity and goodness. Some call it the Golden Rule or Karma. Call it whatever you like, but that’s how it works.
A kind word doesn’t have be forced or made up. It comes from a positive place. There is nothing wrong with encouraging one another and showing love. You will be doing yourself a favor.
It’s not necessarily the Law of Attraction or part of the New Thought philosophy, it’s just the way things flow. Harboring grudges and bad feelings only makes more of the same come to you. It’s added weight. You will truly feel lighter when you give sincere compliments or recognition. You will get the same in return and it will make you feel better.
Where does the negativity come from in the first place? Jealousy yes, but does the jealousy come from pain or regret? Or are some ladies so competitive with other women for the affection of men, that the first thing they can think to do is throw the proverbial dark shadow of shade? I’ll admit, there are some outfits that aren’t flattering on some people, but why would it be necessary to say it out loud or bring it up in public? Putting someone down doesn’t make you feel better. It really doesn’t.
We should try to find something positive in every woman we meet and bring attention to that. It really isn’t that hard – “You’ve got a great sense of humor.” “I loved talking to you.” “Your children are so well behaved.” Would that be such a bad thing? Remember how it makes us feel when someone says something nice about us.
Let’s encourage each other with more Hey Girls and less Bye Felicias.